It is hard to stand in public places especially in Africa and say "I am a feminist." If you call yourself a feminist (especially if you are a grown woman), you will hear;
"No wonder you don't have husband."
"You want to be a man eh?"
"Why do you hate men?"
"Who broke your heart?"
"Every woman's education ends in the kitchen."
"Your beauty will get you a ring not education or feminism."
"I have been noticing too, she wears only trousers and she cut her hair recently…"
"All these gallivanting that you are showing, a man is stronger than you and can still beat you well."
Hmm, first of all, if you still don't understand, feminism is not about men, for men or against men. And yes both genders matter but the female gender has less access to many opportunities today. Plus the mentalities and pressure to be a certain way other than what females choose for themselves is killing the creativity and productivity that they own.
I once heard an elderly woman say that “people will always treat you in reflection of how they feel about themselves. The moment they cannot help themselves, they try to blame their emotions on you so that you believe that you are the bad person." Similar to her words, I think that the people who call feminists "angry black women" are angry that they no longer have control of making a woman dependent, mentally and physically on them. Some men are angry that they will lose the praise and pride that they would have gotten if a woman were to be 100% dependent on them. They feel threatened, rather than inspired to step up their games by a "successful woman." Then the law of attraction starts to make them perceive and treat life, mirroring it as who they are and what they feel.
My point is this, if you already feel good about your life or your achievements and you have a balanced self-esteem, I don't see any reason to tie negativity to a woman who decides to improve herself mentally and physically to whatever limits she has. I don't see the reason why you will be threatened if you are well equipped. Hell! Feminism is not a Halloween costume.
REMEDIES FOR AN ANGRY BLACK WOMAN; AKA FEMINIST
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