First of all, I will applaud this book and the writer for successfully breaking through the idea that a woman cannot say just whatever she wants on issues that concern her. She deliberately knocked off the idea that a man’s perspective of how a woman should be is more important than a female’s perspective of how she chooses to be. She exposed the truth about how many multi-million dollar businesses in these misogyny societies that function in waist trainers, make up, slimming tea, hair etc. will go bankrupt when women realize the “control a woman to fit this standard motive” behind them. This is a book that says “I am female, it is my body, my mind, my opinion, my perspective and whatever I have or choose to say about it should not be controlled, tamed, or tampered with, by the societal stereotypes or expectations.” This book as the title suggests gives a woman’s perspective of every stereotype attached to being female and feminism that you can imagine. You think you are not a feminist? Read this book. Are you a feminist? Read this book. Do you know why you are or should be a feminist? Read this book.
She began the book by stating the obvious and general reasons that many people are chasing feminism and slowly transitioned to the more serious stuff without much notice. I will not say that I totally agree with everything that she wrote in the book. There were several parts where she talked about sexuality and how teenage girls should be given more information and freedom to their sexuality, relating it to males are free, slut shaming and all that… I don’t agree with that, I remember as a kid, whenever my mother would whoop my ass for following a friend to do something stupid, she will say that “So because your friend put hand into fire, you too dipped your hand into it. If your friend goes to hell nkor?”
Just as I have mentioned earlier in some of my posts, for one thing, I want a feminism for women that in the long run influences men positively. One of my favorite lines in the book is on page 250 where she mentioned that as feminists we also have a part to play for men. We should stop judging men for not being “manly enough.” I also believe that every perspective of feminism is affected by each person’s and personal values. I value innocence and purity. Should we let girls loose because the boys are loose? No! I will rather suggest that we create a culture that trains boys and men to value their virginity and purity as much as we train and threaten girls concerning such issues. From what I know, teenagers don’t make the best decisions concerning sexuality, give them one step, they take it to five.
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