The word feminist has become an insult, a path way to trigger emotions and step on people’s nerves. It has become an object used to offend and defend unreasonable causes and arguments. It is an attitude, an act and emotion many people especially young women yearn to exhibit rather than be. The same way that it is easier to look like a success than be a success is the same way it is easier to look, act and exhibit feminism than actually be a feminist. So when someone tweets “women should cook for their husbands”, the so called “feminists” are quick to respond, “No! They shouldn’t!” The funniest part is that, if you go to their homes you will find them cooking for their husbands. Also, during the start of the recent Presidential campaign in America, a woman painted Donald Trump with her menstruation blood as a feminist act against his slurs, people hailed and said all sort of things. As usual, the news died away and everybody went about their businesses. Trump did not stop his slurs and there was no evident or realistic improvement on the movement other than someone painted something and you gave an opinion.
My point is this. I am not a fan of “seasonal feminism,” “remote controlled feminism,” “anger triggered feminism,” “light bulb switch feminism” or “for show feminism.” The type that ends at what we say, type and post. I want a more realistic feminist movement. I want to see actions that help women to be better and more successful people. I want a movement that yields results rather than controversies, a movement that gathers women to do better evidently rather than gather opinions to satisfy ordinary desires. My definition of feminist is a person that does something consciously to make another female’s life better for good. It is directing positive energy to awakening the minds of females and tapping into their strength rather than using the energy to prove that men are wrong… Our act of feminism should not end at a headline, a hatch tag, a round of applause or an argument. What can you do to help just that one female you see every day for her life to be better? Then do it, that is what feminism means to me.
If we keep lacking consistency in our demands for what is right and what we want, we are not going to reach any where. if you look at managers and people who run great businesses, they are always enthusiastic and energetic to move forward whether there is anything to trigger and inspire them or not. Similar to the idea of feminism, we cannot relent or be motivated wrongly when it comes to doing and being at our best for a good cause.
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