I am not a fan of “seasonal feminism,” “remote controlled feminism,” “anger triggered feminism,” “light bulb switch feminism” or “for show feminism.” The types that ends at what we say, type and post on social media or the type that is only triggered by sexism. I want a more realistic feminist movement.
Often, I find that the word feminist is becoming a quick path to trigger the emotions of overly sensitive people who are not fully educated about its cause. It has become a subject used to offend and defend unreasonable causes and arguments. It is also becoming an attitude and act that many people especially young women who are yet to find the wisdom of it only yearn to exhibit; as though they should be prided for simply being feminist.
I believe that the same way that it is easier to look like a success than be a success is the same way it is easier to look and call one's self a feminist than to exhibit core feminist values which realistically contribute to the progress of women in out communities.
So, for example, when someone tweets “women should cook for their husbands”, some so called “feminists” are quick to respond, “No! They shouldn’t!” The funniest part is that, if you go to their homes you will find them cooking for their husbands. The point is not to agree or disagree with whether or not women should cook for their husbands, but to reveal the hypocrisy that some feminist exhibits.
Also, during the start of the recent Presidential campaign in America, a woman painted Donald Trump with her menstruation blood as a feminist revolutionary act against his slurs. People hailed and said all sort of things appraising and disagreeing with her. As usual, the news died away and everybody went about their businesses. Trump did not stop his sexist slurs and there was no evident or realistic improvement on the feminist movement other than someone painted something with their menstrual blood and the media responding heavily to it.
I am not a fan of “seasonal feminism,” “remote controlled feminism,” “anger triggered feminism,” “light bulb switch feminism” or “for show feminism.” The types that ends at what we say, type and post on social media or the type that is only triggered by sexism. I want a more realistic feminist movement. I want to see actions that help women to be better and more successful people within our environments and communities. I want a movement that yields results rather than controversies, a movement that gathers women to do better evidently rather than gather opinions to satisfy ordinary desires.
My definition of feminist is a person that does something consciously to make another female’s life better for good. It is directing positive energy to awakening the minds of females and tapping into their strength rather than using the energy to prove that men are wrong… Our act of feminism should not end at a headline, a hashtag, a round of applause or an argument. What can you do to help just that one female you see every day for her life to improve? Go ahead and do it; that is what feminism means to me.
If we keep lacking consistency in our demands for what is right and just, only relaying on external negative impulses to prescribe our actions to show women support, we are not going to reach any where fast or at all. if you look at managers and people who run great businesses, they are always enthusiastic and energetic to move forward whether or not there is anything to trigger and inspire them. Similar to the idea of feminism, we cannot relent or be motivated wrongly when it comes to doing and being at our best for a good cause.
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