One of the closest thing that I have seen to a zombie apocalypse is this thing we call norm. The art and culture of twisting, turning and shaping yourself to fit into an idea and lifestyle of the majority. It is what is expected and prepared for you to be. If I mention some categories, I am sure you will have brief imaginations in your head. For example, 18 year old female’s snapchat video, a Nigerian lecturer, an American singer, a Nigerian hip-hop song, or careers parents want their children to be in. Does that bring pictures and descriptions to your mind?
However, when you meet a person who can be described with any of the features mentioned above but who acts totally different from your expectations, one of the first thoughts you may have is, “this is weird.” If you are daring enough you will ask “why are you not normal like everyone else? Or “what makes you think that will work for you?”
I find it limiting that we are expected to grow and be like everyone else. We learn how to trade our differences and what makes us stand out just to “fit in.” Rather than manage our awkwardness to success in the society, we shrink in fear and shame. We strive for a social and collectively believed standard of perfection that no one really knows and at the end we tend to feel unsatisfied.
The best advices that have helped me concerning this issue of being the odd one out are;
Make it work positively for you and make money out of it – Steve Harvey
Don’t think inside or outside the box, think without the box – Rafael Mendez
(Note that I am paraphrasing and not quoting any of this people)
I think that we are all created uniquely, different in a normal way and normal in a different way. We should embrace our positive differences and explore them rather than shrink them just to fit in. This topic reminds of one of Fela Kuti’s songs; Zombie.