Realizing that success is the pursuit and not just the attained goal, has forced me to accept that failure in itself isn't the lack of achieving the goal. So failure to me has become "not trying when I could have had a shot," "not thriving progressively when I miss the shot" and "settling or not aiming further when I attain a goal."

Supporting Victims and Survivors of Sexual Assault and Abuse in Nigeria

My intention is not to speak for victims or survivors but to ensure that they are heard. It is to let them know that they are being listened to and that their voices are valid, their truth is valid, and ensure their pain is not dismissed rather it is attended to with care. 

Here are some tips that may help!

These plans are just brief summaries of things I do, and there are more details that I have behind each plan which I won’t state here. Additionally, my plans are affected by my values towards writing and personal/career goals which may be different from yours. So, you may not need to follow all what I say or do.

I have read Seye Kuyinu’s other books titled: Things I Wanted to Tell You In Other Words, Dates and All Those Things I Tell You, and Good Morning! All of which are equally well penned. As a writer, I am very curious to know how the progression of his experiences have impacted his writing and if there is fear of not meeting improved expectations when returning with a new book.

22 Suggestions that Can Contribute to Your Success as an Author

I remind myself to always do one thing regarding my book or creative work every day. It could be as simple as posting a picture on social media or sending out messages to people who may be interested in purchasing copies of my book. I take one step every day and make sure that I keep a positive attitude towards my goals for my writing.

I have developed the courage to say no to people, primarily if they can obtain the help somewhere else. If it is a quick request, I may take it, but if it is something that demands a lot of time, I kindly decline and explain to the person that I feel overwhelmed by my other demands. To make myself feel less guilty, I ask myself, if I did not exist or if I fall sick or die from stress, will this person find help somewhere else? Most likely, the answer is yes.